The 20 Most Important Questions You Must Ask Yourself This 2020

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The Top 20 Questions You Might want To Ask Yourself

Resolutions. I hate making them since I turned 30 years old. I could not commit myself towards fulfilling or achieving them. And when I found myself failing at following through with those commitments I set out for myself, I became discouraged and disillusioned.

Since then, I found a far more superior and effective way of ensuring that my new years were more exciting and more expansive. I wanted my brand new year to be a sandbox concept. Where I explored each location with purpose and intent.

Here are 20 top questions you might wanna ask yourself this 2020, to keep you in the game of life.

  1. Why is my 2020 going to be different than my previous years?
  2. How will my 2020 shape out in the first quarter, second and so forth?
  3. Who are the people that I want to partner up more closely in 2020?
  4. Who are the people that I want to discard and absolve myself from this 2020?
  5. Which areas of my strengths will I work on in a more focused manner this 2020?
  6. Which areas of my weaknesses will I continue to be aware of but not to be distracted by this 2020?
  7. How much of my daily time will I allocate for myself?
  8. How much of my daily time will I allocate for my career/profession?
  9. How much of my daily time will I allocate for my family and loved ones?
  10. How much of my daily time will I allocate for God?
  11. What 3 big beneficiaries will I want to contribute to in my own ways this 2020?
  12. What are the 3 top life philosophies I will want to hold on to as my guiding light this 2020?
  13. Who are the 3 top mentors/coaches I will want to learn and learn from this 2020?
  14. What little sacrifices will I make this 2020 to make room for my successes?
  15. How will I reward myself after every success that I achieve this 2020?
  16. How much money will be significant enough for me to say that 2020 is a success?
  17. How many people will I help with my skills/services/products this 2020?
  18. What will make me feel fearless this 2020?
  19. How will I see myself on 31st December 2020?
  20. Do I believe in myself?

I hope that some of these questions will help you in formulating your dream board this 2020! Resolutions and goals can only be committed to, when you ask yourselves the right powerful questions.

Want to know why I believe questions are important?

Why You Should Always Fight For What You Want

As a father of two, I had always paid particular attention as to how I will want my children to engage in social dynamics. I’ve observed their antics and communication styles when they are at the playground, at home or out hanging with their school mates.

I grew up being told by my caretakers (parents, grandparents, aunties &uncles), that the number one virtue to always uphold, is the willingness to give in. What it meant back then was to always play the role of a passive possum when it comes to toys or candies. If there was a toy in a home, and there are two or more kids vying for it, I should not be in the mix. What it meant was that, I am usually the one, sitting tightly to my caretakers, as I watched the other kids tore each other into pieces. On that odd occasions I would have sulked at not being able to play that particular toy, I would have been comforted with the empty promises of “I’ll buy you one when we get home.”

As the years went on, I realized that the constant conditioning of giving in, resulted in me avoiding conflicts whenever possible. It meant that I was always willing to just throw in the towel and silently exclaim to myself that, “It’s okay. I’ll be fine.” Because of this subconscious willingness to surrender at the slightest sign of a potential fight, I lost relationship opportunities, job promotions, incentives and the likes. Only because I had been ingrained with the belief that, passing on what I wanted, was fine.

The truth is however, it is not fine.

I realize the severity of this wayward upbringing, when I unconsciously decided to inculcate the same beliefs onto my children. Unknowingly, I had always pulled them aside and chided them when they wanted to lay claim to a playing spot, a toy or a sweet. I pulled them aside and told them to give the toy they were holding to their cousins, because it was supposedly the “proper thing to do”.

Obviously it was not. These stupid acts of mine, had affected the fighting spirit in my children. I saw how their confidence diminished whenever I raised my voice, barking at them, to give in. I observed how they just slouched in resignation when they realized that they had to forego their desires and wants, only because it was “not nice” to fight over things.

So these days, this is what I tell my kids.

  1. If you want it, ask for it
  2. If it means much to you, hold on to it.
  3. If someone wants to snatch it away from you, fight for it.

I think the above 3 commandments are adequate to ensure that my kids grow up with an empowering sense of self belief.

We need to understand that it is not selfish to put ourselves as a priority most of the times. That we too deserve the finer things that Life has to offer. That wanting something is part of human nature and that fighting and working for it, is insanely normal. Avoiding potential conflicts by throwing in our towels is a cowardly way of living our lives. We can and should fight for what we feel is deserving. That is the proper way.

So the next time your kid runs to you, sobbing, saying how someone snatched his/her toy away, do not whisper saying,”It’s okay, we’ll get another one.”

Pat your kid on the back, turn him around and tell him/her firmly, “You go and get your toy back now, in whatever manner possible.”