Why Alexander Graham Bell Said Hello!

Halo!

A few days back, I made a call to a friend. Asked her out for a late supper. She must have been surprised by the call, judging from her “Hello?”. Hearing her voice was also somewhat of a chirpy surprise for me, considering that the call was perhaps the first in a long while. Reason being that we had always maintained our communication  via Whatsapp.

The thing that surprised me though was the quality of the conversation. While it was probably  the shortest conversation by a long shot, lasting slightly more than 3 minutes, it was memorable.

The thing about hearing someone’s voice at the end of the other line, is that you can listen in to a host of emotional responses. The tonality, pitch and volume of someone’s voice can indicate their level of excitement or despair, when speaking to you.

I guess this is the part about being authentic, that most people have almost forgotten.

People these days are more comfortable having conversations via text messages or social media. What this does is that it impedes the person’s natural conversational skills.

Have you ever asked yourself just why is it, that when you hear stories about a person’s last moments before death or disasters, they will always try to reach out to their loved one’s via a phone call?

It is crucial for you to understand, that while we are being bombarded with a host of social media applications for ease of communication, it should not take away the significance of a simple phone call.

If you are like most people, you probably have more than 10 personal or group conversations on your mobile devices. What it does is that these conversations tend to create a clutter of meaningless chatter. You have people discussing trivial matters over hours just because it is an easy conversation to partake in.

The key takeaway here is to understand the power of your voice. One important aspect of authenticity, is the ability to communicate your thoughts with your voice.If you want to add a dash of personal power, pick up your phone and make that call. You’ll get your points across faster.

 

 

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5 Easy Steps Towards A More Confident You In 30 Days

5 CONFIDENCE HACKS

Your parents will never tell you this. Your teachers will never share this. Your friend will deny this. All of them will never ever say this. But I will.

Confidence is a contact sport.

You will never grow in confidence if you sit on your couch, scrolling through those Instagram and Tinder accounts. You will not build your charisma bank, just by listening to Anthony Robbin’s motivational audios. You are most likely not gonna make heads turn by keeping your mouth shut.

How do I know this? Cause I’ve been in that gutter of not being cool or confident before. And if you are pretty much in that gutter  now, am sure you can relate and feel the anguish of missing out on fun, enthralling and seductive social exchanges. You probably have those moments of going,”Damn, I should have just smiled back…”

Okay, I feel you. So lemme give you a quick run on how you can get up to speed on that confidence. In 30 days? You bet. Cause I did it.

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The Curious Case Of The Big Bad Wolf

Why Be Afraid Of The Big Bad Wolf

Impressions.

Most people swear and live by them. In fact, that is the framework of our social media presence. You wear the nicest outfits, sport the widest smiles and jump  the highest in your Instagram posts. You say the wittiest, funniest and most inspirational things in your Facebook posts. In fact, you prime up the best things in your social media accounts, because it is meant to serve a purpose.

Make an impression. The more compelling the impression, the deeper the connection.

Which brings me to a thought. What if the Big Bad Wolf, in that fabled tale  of the Three Little Pigs, had a social media account? What do you think would he have posted? Him, playing with kittens? Or perhaps picking flowers?

We grew up with that simple story. About how three pigs, tried to thwart the hungry advances of a wolf. We noted in glee, as we celebrated the demise of the wolf, when he went down the chimney of the last pig’s house and got burned alive, after failing to blow his bricked house.

We were told that the big bad wolf, was always hungry, scheming and preying on weak, innocent and helpless victims like the pigs. That story got imprinted in our childhood memories. It was a subtle indication that the strong, powerful and hungry were always on the extreme side of evil.

Think about the evil witch in Snow White. Think about Ursula in the Little Mermaid. Heck, even Captain Cook is deemed evil.

So, do these stories truly define the characters? Why did we tag the traits, “bad” to a wolf? “Evil” to an old lady . Just because they decided to pursue an intent at whatever costs.

Being real and authentic is hard these days. Do you seriously expect to hear a story about a wolf munching down on  a plate of salads? Wolves are meat eaters. They eat sheep, pigs and maybe chicken. Why will we wanna even judge a primal need of a character as evil? Yet, we are so guilty of forming impressions on the superficial levels.

So think about it. Are we truly that keen on labeling people and forming impressions just by the look of things. There is always more to a person, that just the things he posts, says or does. If you have to form an impression , form one that is real. Regardless of criticisms or skepticism. If there is one piece of advise I can share, from the perspective of Mr Wolf, is this.

Just be you.

It’s okay if you are being judged for being yourself.

Cause the way I see it, people should not be afraid of people who are being themselves. People should be afraid of those who pretend to be someone else.