Your parents will never tell you this. Your teachers will never share this. Your friend will deny this. All of them will never ever say this. But I will.
Confidence is a contact sport.
You will never grow in confidence if you sit on your couch, scrolling through those Instagram and Tinder accounts. You will not build your charisma bank, just by listening to Anthony Robbin’s motivational audios. You are most likely not gonna make heads turn by keeping your mouth shut.
How do I know this? Cause I’ve been in that gutter of not being cool or confident before. And if you are pretty much in that gutter now, am sure you can relate and feel the anguish of missing out on fun, enthralling and seductive social exchanges. You probably have those moments of going,”Damn, I should have just smiled back…”
Okay, I feel you. So lemme give you a quick run on how you can get up to speed on that confidence. In 30 days? You bet. Cause I did it.
It may have been uttered unknowingly by your partner in a fit of anger. A mother to a son, in a moment of exasperated disappointment. A great friend to another, in a moment of folly. Or even dramatically perhaps, you, saying it to yourself when you looked in the mirror early this morning.
The truth is, there will be moments, when we just seem to grapple with our sense of identity, sometimes in our lives. Don’t you think so?
I think it took me quite a while in my early adulthood to finally feel settled with the person I was becoming. In that moments of self discovery, I went on a crazy roller coaster ride of grappling with confidence and conviction in my daily interactions with Life. Eventually, I found that I was pretty much responsible for who I was turning out to be, and decided to take a proactive approach in ensuring that I developed into something I would like. So what were the 3 reasons that ultimately shaped who I am today?