Why Introversion Is Just A Name Tag

Creating an effective Student Council team dynamic

I attended a networking session for introverts once. And the majority of them there were happy and contented to lay claim to the fact that they are introverts. They wanted to embrace the notion that they are introverts. Yet, at the end of the day, all of them wished that they were as dynamic as extroverts at one point or another.

When I chatted with most of them, I discovered that the one issue they were probably trying to deal with, was not their introversion. I thought that it was their lack of conversational skills that proved to be their stumbling block. They were unable to sustain an interesting conversation.

And we wanna pin this lack of conversational skills to introversion?

It is in my personal opinion that we do not laud introversion as a hidden crutch, we can lean on when the circumstances need.

A : “Why are you not socializing?”

B : “Oh, I am an introvert.”

When instead it should be answered as,

“I  have no clue at all as to what to ask you…”

The majority of those that I’ve met over the years, and who lay claim to being introverts, are actually just ordinary people not wanting to hold conversations. It gets even yucky, when introverts try to “humblebrag” by responding to praises and the likes…

“Oh, it surprises me too that people like me, considering the fact that I am an introvert.”

Let’s not glorify introversion excessively. You and I know that all it takes, is just a bit of effort when it comes to interactions and communications.

Why Alexander Graham Bell Said Hello!

Halo!

A few days back, I made a call to a friend. Asked her out for a late supper. She must have been surprised by the call, judging from her “Hello?”. Hearing her voice was also somewhat of a chirpy surprise for me, considering that the call was perhaps the first in a long while. Reason being that we had always maintained our communication  via Whatsapp.

The thing that surprised me though was the quality of the conversation. While it was probably  the shortest conversation by a long shot, lasting slightly more than 3 minutes, it was memorable.

The thing about hearing someone’s voice at the end of the other line, is that you can listen in to a host of emotional responses. The tonality, pitch and volume of someone’s voice can indicate their level of excitement or despair, when speaking to you.

I guess this is the part about being authentic, that most people have almost forgotten.

People these days are more comfortable having conversations via text messages or social media. What this does is that it impedes the person’s natural conversational skills.

Have you ever asked yourself just why is it, that when you hear stories about a person’s last moments before death or disasters, they will always try to reach out to their loved one’s via a phone call?

It is crucial for you to understand, that while we are being bombarded with a host of social media applications for ease of communication, it should not take away the significance of a simple phone call.

If you are like most people, you probably have more than 10 personal or group conversations on your mobile devices. What it does is that these conversations tend to create a clutter of meaningless chatter. You have people discussing trivial matters over hours just because it is an easy conversation to partake in.

The key takeaway here is to understand the power of your voice. One important aspect of authenticity, is the ability to communicate your thoughts with your voice.If you want to add a dash of personal power, pick up your phone and make that call. You’ll get your points across faster.