Your parents will never tell you this. Your teachers will never share this. Your friend will deny this. All of them will never ever say this. But I will.
Confidence is a contact sport.
You will never grow in confidence if you sit on your couch, scrolling through those Instagram and Tinder accounts. You will not build your charisma bank, just by listening to Anthony Robbin’s motivational audios. You are most likely not gonna make heads turn by keeping your mouth shut.
How do I know this? Cause I’ve been in that gutter of not being cool or confident before. And if you are pretty much in that gutter now, am sure you can relate and feel the anguish of missing out on fun, enthralling and seductive social exchanges. You probably have those moments of going,”Damn, I should have just smiled back…”
Okay, I feel you. So lemme give you a quick run on how you can get up to speed on that confidence. In 30 days? You bet. Cause I did it.
The year has just started. You had pinned your goals, nicely on your wall. You had prepared your schedules. You had also signed up for a gym membership. In short, you are prepared to make this year, awesome.
But a message came on your Whatsapp,
“Are you sure that gym membership will be fully utilized?“said a pal.
Another pal, gave a grinning emoticon on your Facebook status, when you mentioned that you are planning your week.
Another friend just laughed out loud when you said you had your goals written down.
Your awesome year just got deflated.
Goalless Zombies Are Everywhere
Ever heard about good energy being infectious? Well, so is bad and negative energy. And goalless zombies, will want to sink their teeth in you with those bad parasitic viruses. While you may want to look at your world from the perspectives of being in Eden, be aware that energy sapping zombies are aplenty. Just like a bad week of The Walking Dead, these zombies sometimes come in the form of your closest friends, loved ones or perhaps your social weekend football mates. Of course, being the good guy or gal that you are, you probably do not have that much desire in you to just chop off their heads. You may run, but yeah, they’ll still try to lumber up to you.
I still remember an advertisement I saw on TV. It said that when a butterfly flaps its wings somewhere else, another place far away will be hit by a tornado. It may be quite exaggerated yet who would bother to scientifically prove it. But the notion of small events resulting in bigger circumstances resonates with me. I like the idea of small things impacting in a big way.
What Is Your Small Idea
We have been besieged with the concept of faster and better ideas, producing results that, we almost always forget the process of getting there. Most people that I know of freezes two times over when I ask if they have any ideas. It may be a simple thing such as getting food, or movie or clothes. You get the point. Most of us have been trained to not think. We have been taught that the spoken words must be ringing with the best ideas. Ideas that are ridiculous and simplistic in nature will almost always get that, “Yah…we know that. Is that all you can come up with?” And so we froze whenever another idea-less moron asks us for ideas. We become too fearful of dishing out ideas, since it’s not big enough. Not influential enough. Not having enough impact.
Do you realize that whenever we strained our heads to come up with the near perfect single good idea, a thousand more not so developed ideas get washed away in our mental trash bins? Ideas that may be half baked, half developed and definitely bursting with potential. We sieve through mercilessly through our God inspired ideas, to find that one idea that will meet and conform to someone finally saying, “Yes, that’s a good idea. We’ll use that.” You cannot survive on one idea.