Why You Should Always Act On Your Self Interest

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There is a difference between selfishness and being self interested. The former means that you are perhaps taking away, or withholding something back. Where else the latter means that you are aware of the resources available around you and work towards maximizing that.

Understanding self interest is the key to understanding motivation.

Self interest is knowing that you deserve happiness. Selfishness is robbing people of their happiness and inflicting pain, just to get that happiness.

You may have been stuck at some facets of your lives, because people told you that your wanting of being promoted, married, loved and happier were not in line with the norm. They probably told you that you were being a self indulgent jerk/bitch for expressing those desire. And because you somehow allowed those opinions to sink deep in your cognitive processes, you allowed compromises to happen.

You said things like,

“It’s okay, my time will come…”

“He/she deserves it more than me…”

“God is fair. My happiness will come soon…”

And then you breeze through life not fulfilling your absolute potential. All because someone insinuated that you are being selfish.

But here’s my take on why I believe that you must align your interests in serving your best self. Being self interested.

  • Everyone acts on their self interests. Even wanting somebody else to be happy is an exercise in acting on your self interest. Because you know that when you see someone is happier because of you, you feel happier too.
  • No one will want to admit selfishness. Everybody will paint themselves as a victim of circumstances when they are pushed to a corner. Selfishness is the other flip side of making choices.
  • Self interests are compelling. People will be moved an inspired if your intentions and actions are aligned with your self interests first, and at the same time appealing to their self interest too.

So how can you start being more self interested?

Do things differently…

  • Quit thinking that people share your beliefs and values system about reciprocity in relationships.
  • Decide that you are no longer gonna be people serving. Quit being at the end of people’s criticisms and judgments
  • Selfish people are selfish people. Stop expecting them to change.
  • Engage proactively so that you can own the outcomes. Avoiding engagements is not optimal.
  • See your self interests objectively and be rational about it.
  • Honor your emotions and self worth.
  • Assertiveness is a key social skill to learn and apply. If you cannot be assertive about what you want, you will never get what you want.
  • End relationships with lazy and selfish people. They are chronically dysfunctional. You will not be productive with baggage.
  • Develop strategies of engagement from selfish people if you are expecting personal attacks.
  • Be consistent and grounded to your beliefs and principles.

The 20 Most Important Questions You Must Ask Yourself This 2020

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The Top 20 Questions You Might want To Ask Yourself

Resolutions. I hate making them since I turned 30 years old. I could not commit myself towards fulfilling or achieving them. And when I found myself failing at following through with those commitments I set out for myself, I became discouraged and disillusioned.

Since then, I found a far more superior and effective way of ensuring that my new years were more exciting and more expansive. I wanted my brand new year to be a sandbox concept. Where I explored each location with purpose and intent.

Here are 20 top questions you might wanna ask yourself this 2020, to keep you in the game of life.

  1. Why is my 2020 going to be different than my previous years?
  2. How will my 2020 shape out in the first quarter, second and so forth?
  3. Who are the people that I want to partner up more closely in 2020?
  4. Who are the people that I want to discard and absolve myself from this 2020?
  5. Which areas of my strengths will I work on in a more focused manner this 2020?
  6. Which areas of my weaknesses will I continue to be aware of but not to be distracted by this 2020?
  7. How much of my daily time will I allocate for myself?
  8. How much of my daily time will I allocate for my career/profession?
  9. How much of my daily time will I allocate for my family and loved ones?
  10. How much of my daily time will I allocate for God?
  11. What 3 big beneficiaries will I want to contribute to in my own ways this 2020?
  12. What are the 3 top life philosophies I will want to hold on to as my guiding light this 2020?
  13. Who are the 3 top mentors/coaches I will want to learn and learn from this 2020?
  14. What little sacrifices will I make this 2020 to make room for my successes?
  15. How will I reward myself after every success that I achieve this 2020?
  16. How much money will be significant enough for me to say that 2020 is a success?
  17. How many people will I help with my skills/services/products this 2020?
  18. What will make me feel fearless this 2020?
  19. How will I see myself on 31st December 2020?
  20. Do I believe in myself?

I hope that some of these questions will help you in formulating your dream board this 2020! Resolutions and goals can only be committed to, when you ask yourselves the right powerful questions.

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