Why You Have Everything To Lose Now?

WHY YOU HAVE EVERYTHING TO LOSE NOW-

A friend invited me for a quick coffee chat the other day. He was trying to get a bit of insight into how he can plan for his next move forward. He had just recently graduated from university. He was a confident, well groomed and dynamic young man, whom I was guessing, aspiring to be a speaker.

In the course of our conversation, he mentioned a phrase that got me intrigued. He said something along the lines of, “I’ve got nothing much to lose as I have a lot of time in my hands.” I stopped him in his tracks, and asked. “Do you really have nothing much to lose?”

The Illusion Of Time

You will agree with me, that when you once looked at life from the perspectives of a 20 year old, it was filled with rainbow colored mountains. You told yourself, that there is so much to explore, so many paths to journey on and so many mountains to climb. The vast amount of options in achieving success, seemed enthralling.

And while we were looking at all those options, we silently muttered to ourselves, “I will find the time to do all that.” Yet, years passed, and suddenly we find ourselves at the age of 30 and wondered why we have still not conquered even a single peak of those rainbow mountains.

What happened?

The elusive nature of time happened. It crept up on us and overtook us before we even realized it. The head start it gave us, was the grand vision of possible achievements.

So I gave my young friend a few pointers. Pointers that I learned, from my own abysmal experiences. And I am sure it resonates with you too.

Potential Is Bull

I grew up with a realization that I was filled with potential. People around me were always citing how talented I was. People told me that I had the talent to sing, draw, speak, lead and even do fly if I wanted to.

Of course, it dawned on me also that they were right. I did all the above with  a high degree of competency. In fact, one avenue in which I found myself to be absolutely competent in, was in the area of public speaking. I was so good that I knew that one day I will make a career out of it. And this realization came about at the age of 16.

20 years on, I am still not a speaker. What happened?

I rested on my potential. Cause I thought that my potential will roll me up the gradients in life.

Yet, physics have proven that the largest amount of potential is stored when a ball rests on top of a slope. But no amount of energy can be released if that ball does not start rolling down.

Thus this analogy proved decisively that I was like that ball, resting on top of the slope. Filled with vast amount of potential. Yet nothing happened, cause I did not bother moving.

Do Not Believe In Your Own Hype

“Quality sells itself. No hype needed.”
― Brandi L. Bates, Red Flags

If you thought that not working on your potential is bad, try believing your own hype. That is even worse. I’ve always wondered as to why people, who were less  talented  than me, were achieving things way much faster.

People were always telling me, how I was so much better than those they knew. And yet, these people whom I deemed less capable, were earning bucks for their various attempts at making it in life.

The conundrum then dawned on me that I was self absorbed in my delusional self hype. People were right. I was more capable. And that was the problem. Believing in my hype made me think that there will be a “perfect time” when my abilities will be showcased to the world. I was always  waiting for the “perfect moments”. It never arrived.

You Have Everything To Lose

It may seem ridiculous to tell this to a young guy. To make him feel alarmed at the prospects he might lose out on.

And I say this with the conviction that the landscapes of self promotion avenues have changed rapidly. These days, even a 7 year old with enough singing potential, can succeed, if he/she manages to get the needed leverage. Be it via social media or traditional media exposure. The little child has so much more time compared to you, yet he/she is banking on it now. Not tomorrow or next year.

I feel that if we are not working fast and hard enough these days, we have everything to lose. The 2 business capitals that may seem exclusive to us, time and potential, will become obsolete and useless, by the time we feel we ought to work on it.

So, take my word for it. You have so much to lose.

Start now.

 

 

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The Curious Case Of The Big Bad Wolf

Why Be Afraid Of The Big Bad Wolf

Impressions.

Most people swear and live by them. In fact, that is the framework of our social media presence. You wear the nicest outfits, sport the widest smiles and jump  the highest in your Instagram posts. You say the wittiest, funniest and most inspirational things in your Facebook posts. In fact, you prime up the best things in your social media accounts, because it is meant to serve a purpose.

Make an impression. The more compelling the impression, the deeper the connection.

Which brings me to a thought. What if the Big Bad Wolf, in that fabled tale  of the Three Little Pigs, had a social media account? What do you think would he have posted? Him, playing with kittens? Or perhaps picking flowers?

We grew up with that simple story. About how three pigs, tried to thwart the hungry advances of a wolf. We noted in glee, as we celebrated the demise of the wolf, when he went down the chimney of the last pig’s house and got burned alive, after failing to blow his bricked house.

We were told that the big bad wolf, was always hungry, scheming and preying on weak, innocent and helpless victims like the pigs. That story got imprinted in our childhood memories. It was a subtle indication that the strong, powerful and hungry were always on the extreme side of evil.

Think about the evil witch in Snow White. Think about Ursula in the Little Mermaid. Heck, even Captain Cook is deemed evil.

So, do these stories truly define the characters? Why did we tag the traits, “bad” to a wolf? “Evil” to an old lady . Just because they decided to pursue an intent at whatever costs.

Being real and authentic is hard these days. Do you seriously expect to hear a story about a wolf munching down on  a plate of salads? Wolves are meat eaters. They eat sheep, pigs and maybe chicken. Why will we wanna even judge a primal need of a character as evil? Yet, we are so guilty of forming impressions on the superficial levels.

So think about it. Are we truly that keen on labeling people and forming impressions just by the look of things. There is always more to a person, that just the things he posts, says or does. If you have to form an impression , form one that is real. Regardless of criticisms or skepticism. If there is one piece of advise I can share, from the perspective of Mr Wolf, is this.

Just be you.

It’s okay if you are being judged for being yourself.

Cause the way I see it, people should not be afraid of people who are being themselves. People should be afraid of those who pretend to be someone else.

Why Imagination Is The Key To Fulfillment

Your Imagination Is Your Preview Of Life's Coming Attractions

My daughter just came beside me a while ago, and in her hands was a small bowl filled with purple balls of Playdoh clay. As she gently placed the bowl on my desk, she looked at me with a gleam of excitement, she broke out into her favorite jingle…”Happy Birthday to you…Happy Birthday to you…”

I gamely smiled back at her. Taking a pen off from my table, I placed it right into one of the balls. She nudged me and I understood immediately what she wanted me to do. Blowing softly at the pencil, she clapped happily, acknowledging the fact that I had just blown out a birthday cake candle.

Then she took the bowl of “cakes” and walked out. Satisfied and fulfilled, that her Dad had just recognized her “birthday cake”.

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